Breaking the chains of negative behavior on the parts of others is crucial to living a life of authenticity and freedom. I often wonder how people can treat others as if they are less than them. They cut others down in areas that threaten them and/or that the other person does well. Encouraging and uplifting others is so important. It builds people with confidence and hope for the future. These people are then more likely to look to the future with encouragement and hope for others with whom they can then touch and come in contact. Why would anyone not want that for others?
Locking & Unlocking the Chains
I feel people who have torn me down at every turn have surrounded my life. In fact, there is not one part of my being that hasn’t been torn down. The way I look, speak, write, do certain tasks and even the things I enjoy have been minimized as things that are a waste of time and energy. It has broken me down in so many ways to the point that I don’t put myself out there very much. Fortunately, for the most part, these people are out of my life.
So, I have begun breaking the chains that bound me to the floor so I couldn’t move forward. However, they are still attached to my arms and my heart by the walls and protections I have put around my life to keep me “safe” from the constant attacks. Now those protections hold me captive. I hold back from openly embracing so much in my life for fear of more of those attacks. I have so many tape recordings running through my head and “mind speak” passing through my brain that it’s hard to break free from the chains that hold me.
I realized I was breaking the chains around my ankles when I took steps into leadership and teaching roles, even though doubt and fear are present so often in those areas. By writing this blog and starting to write in other arenas, I am slowly starting to unlink the chains on my wrists. By allowing my writings to be sent out on the Internet for anyone to read, I am beginning to shine a light on who I am and from where I’ve come.
The hardest part of breaking free is coming to terms with the fact that those chains should have never been placed there. How do people who are supposed to love you behave this way and treat those in their lives with such despicable behavior? What purpose does it serve? I have heard that it helps the other person feel better about themselves by tearing down the positives of others. How?
I’m beginning to understand that this is something I will never understand. There is just no way I can wrap my head around the thought process that could lead someone to think this is OK.
I can move forward by looking to the One Who loves me in a way I will also never be able to totally understand this side of Heaven. His love is so vast. He cheers for me louder than any crowd at an NFL game and He speaks to me gently to guide and protect me. I can also take His words and meditate on them so that someday I can come to the point where I not only no longer hear the tapes, but the tapes are destroyed completely. God’s love can do this and I, with His help, can make this happen.
~ Joanna Lynn